We are living in a world where our values and beliefs are constantly coming under attack; I talked about this in detail in my last post. Today, I want to address our male readers. The world is filled with impure images and cheap sex, something of which we are told to avoid, and rightly so. So what do we do about it?
Well for starters, we can remind ourselves that we are not made for this world. Jesus tells us in John’s Gospel, “you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world—therefore the world hates you” (John 15:19). The fleeting pleasures of the world are not for us. We need to remember we are going somewhere, other than here. Ultimately these pleasures distract us from our primary goal, to enter into the Kingdom of Heaven.
When we partake in some of these worldly desires, we are saying to God that we can do this on our own, which we cant. By desires, I’m reffering to pre-marital/extra-marital sex, masturbation, pornography, and gluttony, among other things.
One of my new goals here with this Cultural Commentary Series is to bring back the Catholic Gentleman. It seems that too often we have fallen victim to the lies of quick and easy pleasure. We can all strive to make a better effort not to slip into these falsehoods. It will take time and effort and a whole lot of energy, but it is certainly possible to do.
There is a great blog (they are not sponsoring this post) called the Catholic Gentleman. They have a lot of great stuff on their website, as well as a lot of interesting gift ideas. I would encourage all of you to check it out.
I would like to elaborate a little more on how we as men can make a change. We are right in the heart of this new #MeToo movement where women who have been victims of sexual assualt are being empowered to come out. While this is good, we need to address the reason why this happened. Many of those speaking out in this movement are coming forward about events that happened twenty, thirty, or forty years ago.
Back in the 1960s through the 1980s our country went through a “sexual revolution” in which the norms about relationships and sex were changed. Casual sex became a thing, homosexual acts became more accepted, and the tradtional marriage and courtship was looked down upon as ancient and unecessary. Our society became obsessed with pleasure and things.
I mentioned in a previous post a book by Neil Postman called Amusing Ourselves to Death (you can listen free with an Audible.com trial). While this book is primarily about our entertainment culture, you can compare it to the sexual culture that is our country as well.
Many of the women who are speaking out against politicians, actors, and businessmen seem to come from this age of the sexual revolution. All during this time the Catholic Church had been warning about the dangers of this and made it painfully clear there would be consequences in the future.
So what now? How do we go about fixing this issue? To be honest, I don’t know that we can fix it; however we can work to set a new example for our fellow man. We must always remember that we are made in the image and likeness of God, man and woman. Thus, everyone should be treated as such.
We must also remind ourselves that we are not made for this world, and thus not the pleasures of this world. It is also important to remember what the purpose of the sacrament of Matrimony is for, the procreation of children within God’s plan and for the husband and wife to help eachother into the Kingdom of Heaven.
I would like to talk more on this at length in a future post, including a reflection on proper courtship. If you have any comments, questions or suggestes, please do comment below or send me an email.
May the dogma of the Catholic Church always live loudly from within you,